Friday, November 18, 2011

How Are You Treating Him?

Today my husband posted this status on his facebook page.

"You get treated like a dumb animal long enough, that's what you become." -Trumpkin, The Chronicles of Narnia. Ladies, how are you treating the man in your life? Like a dumb animal or a capable leader?

I don't know about you but that made me stop and think! I've said before that inside every man is a king and a fool. Whichever one you talk to is the one you'll see. But I loved how my husband put this today. So often when we get frustrated with our husbands we can end up talking to them like a dumb animal that must be corrected and trained. How foolish that is!

Our husbands have been charged with the daunting task of leading our families. They are the ones that will stand before God and be accountable for what is done in our home and how we're led. And yet so often we treat them like they're too stupid to do anything.

Men today are portrayed in almost every area of the media and the world as big ignorant children who don't know which way is up. They're wives are viewed as the only smart ones in the relationship and she most often treats the men like stupid children. Then we wonder why so many men are not acting like the responsible head of their household!

In Ephesians 5:33 it says that women are to respect their husband and let me tell you, you can not respect your husband and treat him like a "dumb animal" at the same time. It is simply not possible. One of those will take over and form your view of him.

Let's face it ladies, for men to be seen and talked to different, it's gonna have to come from us and it's going to start in our homes. And something to remember is, the way you speak to your husband is how your son will expect to be talked to and how your daughter will talk to her husband. It all starts with us.

Girls, we have to understand that we have so much power in the words we speak to our husbands! I know i've quoted this verse before and i'm sure i'll quote it again but Proverbs 18:21 says "Death and life are in the power of the tongue". That is a verse that should constantly be on our minds when speaking in and about our marriages and husbands.

It's time we stop speaking to the dumb animal and start speaking to the capable leader in our husbands!

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Cathy said...

Couldn't agree more! Especially the idea that our children will see and model our behavior!

Go give your man some kisses and thank him for being a great spiritual leader! He, generally speaking, as the head of the household, really does have a lot riding on his shoulders! It's amazing what a simple touch or word of affirmation from his wife can do for his confidence! I think that is something important to remember, too!

Stopping by from Wild Weekend Hop with About A Mom to follow you on GFC, by the way!

Have a great weekend!


Life,Twins,DramaQueen said...

New follower from the blog hop please comes follow me back :)

Katie said...

Great post!! I'm a new follower from the Wild Weekend Hop. I'd love for you to stop by my blog and follow back if you like.

Katie @ Glamorous Without the Guilt

Michelle said...

What a great post! I love my husband so much but it took God breaking my heart before I finally got how he needed me to love him.
I'm your newest GFC and FB follower! Have a beautiful evening,

Kathy said...

This post was on point. We really have to watch our tongues in so many situations! Thanks for sharing and enjoying your blog.

Rachel said...

I'm totally putting that as my Facebook status =)

Lisa said...

Excellent post with a perfectly timed challenge. Thanks so much!


Anonymous said...

I really like this and it is something I feel strongly about. I have realized after only a few years of marriage that there is a direct link between my understanding of the Gospel and God's love for us and my ability to show this kind of love and respect to my husband. "Just doing it" was/is torturous when I haven't really accepted what God did for me and His grace and that I NEED His grace, so then I should show grace to my husband as well.